Valentines Day. For well over a month, even before February looms, us 20- something start putting our thoughts of love or the lack thereof out there. Be it through tireless twitter updates or ‘cool story’ facebook status’ we all seem to be obsessing about it.
Now, for someone who has never had a valentine , i always wondered what the fuss was about. EVERYONE i know or have become acquainted with seems to obsess on the issue.
The lonely ones get desperate, the ones in the early stages of dating become nervous that they might not be considered that important come the 14th , and the ones in relationships plan elaborate nights for their partners to show them (and everybody else honestly ) how perfect their relationship is.
I for instance, over the last four years, have made it a point of duty to not set foot out of the safe space of my room. Last year, i opted for a night in with my bestfriend Courtney, a Pint of Rocky Road Ice Cream, The Notebook DVD ( which i had never seen until that night) and 2 blunts afterwards (was still in college).
So exactly what is it about this day that makes otherwise rational human beings like myself act a little nuts? Are we afraid of what being single on valentines day could represent? Could it be that even with a lot more years of dating and heartbreak ahead of us we are still deathly afraid that in the long run, just as we are now, we might end up alone not just on Valentines Day but forever?
What does Valentines Day really represent?
Is it a day to bask in the security of love that we have found ?
Should it be a day for us to realize that , in the grand scheme of things, the most important relationship we should really worry about, is the one we have with ourselves?